When we talk about gender roles, the socially enforced expectations of how people should behave based on their gender. Also known as sex-based social norms, it shapes everything from who gets hired as an escort to how clients treat them. These roles didn’t start with the internet—they’ve been around since courtesans in Renaissance Italy were trained in politics and poetry to win favor in male-dominated courts. But today, the people doing this work are rewriting the script.
The escort industry, a network of independent professionals offering companionship services, often with emotional and physical intimacy. Also known as adult companionship services, it operates under laws that still treat sex work as morally suspect, even when it’s legal doesn’t care about your idea of what a woman or man "should" be. In East London, a curvy woman runs her own booking site because clients want authenticity over airbrushed looks. In North London, a man offering GFE companionship gets more repeat clients than women because he listens better. These aren’t exceptions—they’re the new normal. And the people who still expect escorts to fit old molds? They’re the ones getting ghosted.
Societal views, the collective beliefs and judgments held by a culture about certain professions or behaviors. Also known as public perception of sex work, they’re shifting faster than ever. A 2023 study by the London School of Economics found that over 60% of UK adults now see escort work as a legitimate job—not a sin, not a tragedy, just work. That’s why more people are asking, "What do you actually do?" instead of "How could you?" The stigma didn’t vanish overnight. It faded because real stories replaced myths. Because women, men, and non-binary people started speaking up about safety, pay, and control. Because clients learned that respect isn’t optional—it’s the only thing that keeps the interaction human.
And that’s what you’ll find in these posts: not opinions about who "should" be doing what, but real experiences from the people doing it. How a BBW escort in London turned body shaming into business. Why a male escort in the city charges more than his female peers—and why clients don’t mind. How decriminalization changed the game for sex worker rights. These aren’t abstract ideas. They’re lived realities. If you’ve ever wondered why gender roles still matter—or why they no longer do—you’ll find the answers here, straight from the front lines.
Courtesans in history weren't just lovers-they were educated, financially independent women who challenged gender norms, influenced culture, and proved women could thrive outside marriage. Their legacy shaped early ideas of female autonomy.
